life is for people

inedit ko na para wala na masyadong typo errors :P.. :)

LIFE IS FOR PEOPLE....who would think it's not? right?...now iask,who is always treating life as it is ACTUALLY for people?yeh, the 'always' in the question makes all the difference.i have to admit that most often i have a wrong disposition or persepctive in living my life.i am not perfect. point well said.sometimes there are just so many things that concern me which do not actually need my concern. hahahaha :))i have read Making Friends by Andrew Matthews.. Thanks chap :Dand it has made me rethink of how i live my life with other people.well, the title of the book might seem to be all about friendships and the usual friendship myths but it's a complete opposite. the book is all about how you deal with yourself. for me, the book teaches you how to make yourself a friend first before reaching out to others. hahah :))i am going to share some of my most loved thoughts in the book :Pi don't have the book with me though so there will be no cheating on my evaluation...the sad thing about that is the fact that the quotations there are really well said. anyway,to proceed...other people's business is their business.hm, i am plain guilty about this thing. sometimes i just can't stop myself from being concerned about the way other people will think about me... i am not sure if it's actually vanity or consciousness brought about by my hormones, /* yeh, blame the hormones again! :)) */ but the fact is that sometimes my usual ways of behaving are affected. hm, or the worse, i think too much and thus i am pressured...in reality, we can never really change others' point of view if they don't have the will to change it. what they think are of their own accord and we can't be in control.. sometimes, it is just better to let things be the way they naturally are. it's best to be true to one's self and disregard the "what will be their impressions blah blahs" because most of the time, people are too busy and preoccupied thinking about their own personal dilemmas that they won't even notice your worries. yeh, it is a domino effect. it's because of this fact that we tend to worry a lot. well, if we'll look at it, if we try to focus on our own lives, our own life will be easier....and we never really have to explain.another point.

sorry if it seems that my points are overlapping but that's the way it is.... if we are too concerned about 'the others' opinion' we will be pressured to always explain our side to them.e.g. hey i did not go to the party because i just blah blah blah blah.... when in fact, if we are secure of ourselves, we can plainly say e.g. i did not go to the party because it was my choice. WHY?? because it was my choice.. WHY? DON'T YOU CARE ABOUT THE CELEBRANT? it might appear that i do not care about the celebrant but that was my choice.point taken. we do not always need to explain our side to others because they will also not see the whole picture of our situation. we do not owe an explanation to our choices if we want to keep it to ourselves....i am unsure if i am conveying the right message across but the good point is that we are who we are and our choices are what they are.. we choose them and that fact is enough to escape other people's scrutiny.... because if we give in, they will ask us even more and thus invade our privacy.... it then shows our stand and give them a glimpse on how we want to be treated...yes. we decide how other people will treat us. our actions are the ones responsible for what we give others about the way we handle things and situations. really.. it's amazing :Phm, okies.. so i think i am exploring the book so much.. hahah, forgive me blogger.

anyway....more of sticking to my title........really. life is for people.the purest essence of our life is to live it for the people around us.people are so important that we must always give importance to the right ones.yes. right ones.....one thing that i learned is that if people want to be miserable, give them the chance to be unless they seek your help or they really need you. you will know it... but if people DECIDE to be miserable, you just have no choice but to let them learn what they need to learn in their situation....i also learned there that most often, it is best to keep our mouths closed and say nothing.... really,,,, minsan talaga madaldal ako but i guess i should learn the art of silence especially in the moments that my friends need solitude.... i think i should give advice only if they are asking for it :Phm so blogger...andaldal ko nanaman.

the book is really nice and ahm i will do my best to live up to what i have read....
btw: life update:
currently, tinatapos ko pa rin yung crossstitch piece ko..
hm, well, i think that my tasks this summer are still not yet completed.ang hirap tapusin nung Sakura kasi mejo nabobore talaga ako! hahahahpero most of them naman ay nagagawa ko...
i am currently loving Pancakes <3tas>

Are you worrying for nothing?

According to a University "sumfin" oh well haha...

> 40% of our normal worries do not even happen.

>30% concern things that have already happened and that we can't change

>22% are petty worries of little consequence

Hence, only 8% of our fears and worries are serious and legitimate. Next time you are worried therefore, keep in mind that....

It is better to keep calm and composed because most of our anxieties are wasted on things that we need not get anxious about.

Calmly deciding to do your best (including consulting other people) and doing it is it the best way of handling your problem.

so easy lang kayo... there is a big possibility na nag woworry lang kayo para sa wala :)
god bless